I’m going to be starting a new series of posts on my blog in which I interview various persons from within the spanking community: bloggers, models, writers, producers, party organizers, pro Tops and bottoms, implement makers, you name it! Our community is rich and diverse and I’d love to share the stories of some of the awesome people in it. If you’re interested in being interviewed, please drop me an email.
Today, the series begins with an interview with up-and-coming spanking model, Alexis Steele. I’m very fond of Alexis: she has a warm, inviting personality, is a true-blue spanko and has a really hot ass (I had to say it! I can’t only fawn over people’s personality traits!) Furthermore, she’s one of the people who really encouraged me to move forward when I became interested in starting spanking modeling way back in September: something I’ve tried to pay forward and help other friends who are just trying to get their feet in the water as models.
|Pixie Wells spanking Alexis, courtesy of Punished Brats|
Q: How long have you known that you were into spanking?
A: I had funny little fantasies develop around the age of 7. I remember watching TV shows, like “Charlie’s Angels” and imagined getting spanked by the lead characters.
Q: At what point did you realize that this was something that you actually wanted to do?
A: By the time I entered my twenties, I knew I had to explore hard spankings as part of my personal happiness. I contacted personal ads in the back of the local papers and had some pay for play sessions. I did the paying.
Q: How often were you able to get together with a spanking partner when you first started?
A: I had three paid for sessions with a local male top in my mid twenties, but I stopped right after those that because he was looking more for a slave rather than a spankee. I was getting physical gratification, but was learning I craved emotional connection, too. Then I entered a VERRYYYY long dry spell after that-until my mid 30’s.
Q: That must have been really difficult! How did you keep sane?
A: I actually became obsessed with mental scenarios as to what my perfect spankings would entail. I started reading tons of spanking literature and fine tuning my genuine dynamics. I eventually found a good male friend who was willing to deliver some righteous bare bottomed spankings to me from time to time. I also couldn’t shake the growing desire of wanting to get non sexually spanked by other women.
Q: Was that something that was part of your original fantasies, or did it come up later on?
A: Those were my original fantasies, based on my early childhood TV fantasies! Also I was very rebellious in school and gave a lot of attitude to female teachers in particular. I was looking for attention and they didn’t provide it at the time!
Q: So you were originally more interested in being spanked by women than men, but then men were the ones who were available?
A: You nailed it RIGHT on THE money! And I think this is why I had so many dry spells in early adulthood. They were nice spankings, but something was lacking mentally from the men’s spankings.I thought long and hard about this and the complex truth is I prefer male sex partners to females, but prefer female spankers to males. I wonder how common or uncommon this is with other women.
Q: It isn’t something I’ve heard of many examples of, but it makes a lot of sense to me. Our sexual and kink orientations aren’t necessarily the same. I find the details of this pretty fascinating.
A: I actually do get very mentally stimulated while getting a hard spanking and a great scolding. My mind gets very turned on! Like I’m in a competition of sorts.
Q: A competition against whom?
A: Honestly, myself. Not the spanker like you’d figure. I go to a spanking knowing “it’s going to HURT!” But I like to accept “physical challenges” such as these. So I do my best to take what’s coming without “too” much protest. I would love to see videos featuring spanking contests.
Q: That’s another idea that I can get behind! That makes a lot of sense to me.At what point did your spanking life start to get more fruitful?
A: The last 3 years have been incredible for me in Spanking Land. I connected with fantastic website producers, Chelsea Pfeiffer and Pixie Wells. I spent a lot of time exchanging emails with these lovely women as well as others in the spanking community. I’ve been blessed to participate in two video shoots to date. Chelsea broke my video cherry if you will. Punished Brats was my second on camera adventure.
Q: What was your first video experience like?!
A: Every bit as wonderful as I hoped! I did a reality spanking shoot called Chelsea Spanks! Thirty minutes of unedited, no cut spanking. It’s a terrific way to debut on camera because you get to act as yourself. I really enjoyed the shoot. I actually forgot the camera was there. I was too busy thinking about my ever reddening bottom!
|“I wasn’t to proud to shout ‘THIS HURTS!'”|
Q: Did a half hour seem like a long time to you? I know I was pretty surprised when Chelsea said that my shoot was done!
A: Initially no. But the last tem minutes in particular were exceptionally challenging. Chelsea used some of her heavier implements and really let me know she was in charge. I wasn’t too proud to shout “This hurts!” I felt the “love” for three or four days after!
Q: Awesome! The shoots that you’ve done with Punished Brats have been with you as a Top, right?
A: So far the first shoot was me in Switch mode. I played an irresponsible nanny who spanked the daylights out of my college aged charge. But then I got a spanking from my younger than me boss for negligent performance. Ha! Ha! It was a blast working with the PB crew. David Pierson is exceptionally hospitable and very knowledgeable about scene distribution. And Pixie…I love her to pieces.
Q: That’s so excellent! Is switching something that you’re interested in naturally, or is it one of those things that you just aren’t opposed to and would do for the camera?
A: Total honesty here…I would have never considered topping or switching a few years ago. I feel my heart belongs in my bottom so to speak. But my dominant personality came out very effectively on camera. I will always prefer getting the spankings but will Switch on camera on a sporadic basis.
Q: That’s sort of how I feel, too! I do get a bit Toppy towards certain girls sometimes, when they have a certain personality. It looks like you did a great job with it, though!
A: Thank you Alex! My “brat” Audrey was such a sweetie in person. She changed into the ultimate brat. And the feisty ones are THE ones I want to spank. I feel less “guilty” if they’re asking for it as opposed to pleading to NOT get spanked.
|“I feel my heart belongs in my bottom… but my dominant personality came out very effectively on camera!”|
Q: Do you have any plans to do more videos in the future?
A: I would love to do more videos I have a few possible shoots in the future. They’re such fun because we get to play act and explore parts of our personalities we want to expand or didn’t even know was there.
Q: At this point in your development, what would your perfect spanking be?
A: I so much love role plays. I really identify with the student/teacher or student/principal scenes. I would love to get spanked by Miranda Marx as my principal and I’m either her defiant student or errant teacher requiring a “lesson” of my own. As for physical sensations, I love bare hand, and many implements across my bare bottom.
Q: Do you have a favorite or least favorite implement?
A: My favorites are wooden paddles, hand and straps. So far I haven’t met an implement I hated, But I’d be leery of inexperienced caners or those using whips.
Q: Finally: do you have any advice for those who are just getting involved in the spanking scene?
A: Do your research folks! Think out your own fantasies. Join groups like Fetlife because you’ll find so many people who are compatible for your own needs. Develop strong email bonds with people you admire. It pays off in many ways! If possible attend the national parties like Shadow Lane and Boardwalk Badness.
Alexis’ videos can be seen at Good Spanking and Punished Brats. Her video premier in the Chelsea Spanks! series is available to purchase on DVD.
Excellent work. You covered all the questions one would hope to find in an interview. Personally I had no idea that there were male tops who could actually get paid to do sessions. That part is amazing. I’ve seen promo pics and clips from Alexis’ work and she really is amazing. Looking forward to more posts like this.
Thank you! I really enjoyed interviewing her!
Thanks, Lea! 🙂
Alex, it was my pleasure to participate in the interview with you. You asked very well though out questions and I enjoy being open and honest when it may benefit others.
I’m glad you took my advice and I’m looking forward to more of your blog writings! 🙂
Thanks again for being interviewed! I think it went very well!
Nicely done, Alex and Alexis! 🙂