Life has been *crazy* recently, so I continue to struggle to find time to blog. I do want to take a moment to let you know that now that the party season has kicked off, I’m getting ready to head to my first event of the year: The Lone Star Spanking Party in Houston, Texas. I’ll be there from Thursday, May 18th – Sunday May 22nd (I’m arriving on Wednesday and leaving on Monday, but these are the dates I’ll be available for fun times!)
While I’m there, I’m booking private spanking sessions as a Top, bottom and switch, plus I’m available for video shoots! I’m happy to do video or photo shoots with private collectors who just want this for their own enjoyment, in addition to with production companies of any size! I’m also available for a variety of other kinds fetish work, although I am now retired from doing any kind of strict bondage following an injury.
I’m also very excited to see a lot of my friends, hang out and do lots of shooting! We’re excited that we get to shoot with Mackenzie Reed for the first time, plus with newcomer Top Miss Elizabeth, as well as with two of my very best friends: Adriana Evans and Ava Nicole.
Adriana, Ava, Paul and I are sharing a room. I think that we’ll be perfectly well behaved and not get into any trouble at all. I’m positive! :3
I’m also going to be running the Newbie Orientation, which is really exciting for me! I love welcoming new people into the scene, and I’m really passionate about making the scene a safe place for everyone.
If you’re coming to the party, be sure to say hi to me! I love meeting people and talking about our favorite subject.
Also be sure to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you’d like to book a session with me. You do NOT need to be attending the party to come visit me for a little private playtime!
Lots of other adventures have been going on in my life since my last posting, so I’ll be sure to write a longer post to update you on all that as soon as I can! I do miss blogging: it’s just a struggle to find free time these days. >_<
Hugs to everyone, and I hope to see you in Houston!
So, the first month of the year is very nearly over.
First, let’s have some news and updates from my spanking universe.
Basic stuff first:
I’ve been trying to revitalize my spanking news blog, Spanking Wishes, and I am currently posting something on it literally every day. Please go check it out, and give the corresponding twitter account a follow: @spankingwishes.
I’m active on Fetlife in short bursts, but will be trying to spend more time on the site. I accept all friend requests there, so please feel free to send me one. I also still have a kinky Facebook page, but I’m on that even less frequently. While I have a lot of awesome friends that I primarily communicate with through that site, I also get a ton of sexual harassment over it. I get guys sending me pictures of their genitals on that site far more frequently than on any other. I get called a bitch for not wanting to spend lots of time chatting to total strangers about sex for free. I get people demanding that I give them videos for free because “we’re friends now since you added me on facebook!”
I quickly run out of steam for dealing with this stuff. So, I’ll keep trying, mostly because the spanking romance author community is primarily on facebook and I do want to get more involved in that again, but it’s a struggle for me. If you want to send me a friend request, feel free: just be aware that while I do not post photos that include nudity (including bare bottom photos) on facebook, I post explicitly about spanking pretty much all the time and post links to NSFW material.
The Spanking Awards are going on now, which is always an exciting time!
So far, voting has been opened up in 4 categories.
The first one is Best New Spankee. There were so many new spankees this year that were really amazing, and I’ll be giving a shoutout to a handful of them in a post over Spanking Wishes in the next couple of days (since that’s less about me and more about videos), but the selection in the voting is also awesome. I’m happy to see a bunch of my friends included! I’m particularly proud to see three performers who did their first ever spanking shoots with Paul and I for Northern Spanking in the voting. They’re also three of my favorite girls in general, since I’ve been lucky enough to build close friendships with a lot of the performers that we work with.
So, I’m proud of you guys: Ava Nicole, Linny Lace and Nuna Starks! All three girls deserves awards for being adorable, hard working and taking lots of hard spankings. I love you guys! Plus, a big shout out to my friends Tai and Kenzie, who I haven’t gotten a chance to shoot yet, but really look forward to the day that I do! You girls all kick ass. So, go vote for one of these amazing ladies.
The next is Best New Top, which is a new category this year. I think I may have suggested this at some point, but I don’t know if I actually did or if I just thought about it. But either way, I’m glad that John added this category! Tops don’t get as much love in the spanking video world, to be honest, but we literally couldn’t make videos without them (or, we could just make self spanking, which would get boring really quickly). Plus, after having spent a lot of time on both sides of the the paddle in videos, I feel like it’s more important that a Top does an excellent job than almost any other person involved in video production. You have to be physically accurate and you need to be able to carry yourself with authority and have believable scolding going on. So, yes, love to Tops. Tops everywhere.
In this category, one of my favorite “new” Tops is up for voting: Princess Kelley May! I say “new” as Kelley has a ton of experience as a Top and had done a little bit of it on camera before her return to the screen, but she definitely made a splash when she came back after having been away for a long time. Plus, her shoot for Northern was her first time shooting for a membership site.
Anyway, Kelley is an absolutely great Top. I love the way she scolds and I love the way that she spanks. Besides, she’s totally gorgeous and always has PERFECT HAIR. I’ve been trying to get her to teach me her secrets for years but I think I’m just not destined to have perfect hair.
The other lady I adore in this category is my girl Adriana Evans. As I mentioned in my previous post, Adriana and I have become very close in the past year or so. I love her so much and miss her all the time!
Adriana is also a great Top. I love being spanked by her, although our spanking play often ends up taking a somewhat different direction due to the nature of our relationship… 😉
The next category is Best Facial Expression. I’ve come in the ranking for this before, but I’ve never won it and I would really love it if you would vote for me and make that happen! Think of all the times that I’ve had my face covered with tears and I’ve looked truly pitiful during a spanking. Think of how much eye cream I have to use because I’m always scrunching my face up in pain and agony and I don’t want to get fine lines out of control. Think of the fact that I’ve literally popped my jaw out of alignment because I was biting a pillow too hard when screaming and wailing. (The photo above is a screenshot from Spanking Blogg’s listing about me. You can’t actually click the links. I tried. It’s my own post. Siiiiiigh)
My campaign promises are more hard spankings producing more pathetic sad faces from me. I guarantee it.
The most recently opened category is Best Male Top. My most beloved, very favorite Top on Earth is up for voting in this category. Surprise, it’s Paul!
Honestly, Paul deserves an award just for putting up with my massive amounts of nonsense on a daily basis. But he also does an absolutely fabulous job in videos. He gives hard spankings, he gives perfect canings, and he doesn’t have a gross ego about it. He’s just the best. You should vote for him. :3
So, that’s where we are so far with the Spanking Awards. Remember that you can vote once per device, so if you use the internet from your laptop, desktop, iPad and phone… then you can vote four time. Juuuuuuust saaaaying!
I’m going to start a second post that tells you about what else I’ve been up to this month, but I’ll finish this one with some upcoming news.
I’m going to be on the road a lot coming up!
I’m heading to the UK in the start of February. I’m sorry to tell you guys that this time, I am NOT going to be available for shoots and sessions while I’m abroad. I’m only actually going to be over there for six days, and it is my plan to spend as much of that time as possible just hanging out with my friends and having a much needed kick back.
That said, for those of you who want to do sessions with me in London or elsewhere in the UK, I’ll be over for an extended period of time in August. Make a preliminary mark on your calendars, and feel free to shoot me an email and inquire about details whenever it suits you. I’ll be available to both give and get hard spankings, plus I’ll likely be able to do 2-2-1’s with some of my lovely British friends, as well. But that’s a long way off. I just want to make sure you guys know that my choice not to work while I’m over this time isn’t a permanent change. I just kinda need a holiday. It’s going to be the best.
Later in February, I’ll be heading to Palm Springs for some fun and adventures. (I’m fully booked for my time there, but if enough people are interested in seeing me in that direction I could certainly come out again later one). I’ve never been there so there’s a lot of fun stuff I’m looking forward to seeing.
Then, near the end of the month, I’m heading to Vegas. I *am* taking bookings for both shoots and sessions while I’m there, so feel free to shoot me an email about that: email@example.com . I am going to see a bunch of friends and have an awesome time while I’m there and I’m just so excited.
And after that, I’m heading to Denver to get to see my dear and darling Amoni. Hopefully I can get her to photograph me again! And what’s a trip to Denver without a visit to one favorite spanking sites that I don’t run? I’ll be getting a bunch of spankings for Real Spankings and Real Spankings Institute while I’m there! If anyone would be interested in seeing me for sessions in that area, please let me know ASAP! I’d love to be able to get together with you during that visit. Email address is above.
So, that’s the basic news. Watch this space for more detailed information about what my life was like in January, coming soon!
Hi everyone! Remember me?
I feel terrible that I haven’t updated my blog in a long time. It’s been far longer than I’ve ever let it go before. I’ve obviously remained active on social media, posting to my tumblr and Twitter accounts regularly with mini updates about my life. But it’s been a long time since I’ve written anything here.
It started out where every day I’d think “Oh man, I never updated my blog!” and then I started adding “Blog post” to my weekly to-do list instead of my daily one. Then, it got to a point where I wasn’t even bothering to add it to the list anymore: I knew I wasn’t going to get around to it.
I’ve been very busy recently, and I’ve had an unfortunate series of issues with my health. At one point, I was convinced that it was something really serious, and I was quite worried about it, to say the least. I’m happy to say that after a long series of non-sexy doctor’s visits and tests, I’ve been able to get things pretty much straightened out and I’m no longer feeling badly or worrying about that.
During that time, I got behind on a lot of projects and stuff, and I’m now working to get myself totally caught up. I still have a few things to do, but it’s a relief to be at least close to the feeling of being on top of things.
Meanwhile, my creative juices have been flowing a lot recently (side note: that’s the dirtiest sentence ever, when you think about where most of my creativity comes from) but I’ve been primarily funneling them into Northern Spanking. I’ve been writing lots of the scenes that we’ve been shooting, and we’ve been shooting a lot recently.
Throughout all this, my poor little blog has been sitting off in the corner, getting no love from me. It’s hard: once I let something go a while, then I just start feeling so guilty about the fact that I haven’t been doing it and that makes me want to avoid it and it’s just a vicious cycle.
But, it’s time to break that cycle and start sharing with you guys again. So, here are a few fast facts:
-For those of you who don’t know, Paul and I got engaged in January when I was visiting him in England. REALLY exciting stuff! I’m just over the moon happy about it. I love him so much, and getting married to him is a dream come true. *heart eyes*
Nothing is going to change in terms of any of my other relationships or my work life when I get married. I’ll still shoot, I’ll still do sessions, I’ll still play with other people, I’ll still have relationships with other people. A huge part of the reason that Paul and I work so well together is because he supports the things that make me happy. I’m just going to have a supportive husband instead of a supportive partner. I’ll probably just be brighter and bubblier all the time.
So, that’s the biggest news! Paul was in England for literally five months this time, so the fact that he’s back now is also pretty big news to me. He got home in April, so he’s been home for a little over a month. I’m getting used to having him back, and it’s been really good to get to spend time together. Our cats are happy about it, too. They really missed him. I’m not even making that up. They love him more than they love me, I think.
There will be posts about other stuff that’s happened since I last posted…last year coming up soon (probably). But tomorrow Paul and I are shooting with Ami Mercury. In case you aren’t familiar with her, Ami is an East Coast based spanking model who shoots primarily with Punished Brats. We’ve got some fun scenes planned for the day. I’ve never had the chance to meet Ami before, so I’m looking forward to that. She’s going to be in town for Domcon, which starts this weekend.
Alas, I won’t be able to attend Domcon this year, as it’s the same weekend as the Lone Star Spanking Party in Houston, which Paul and I will be taking off for on Wednesday. I have a busy calendar while I’m there, but if you’re a Houston based spanko or you’re going to be at the party and you’re interested in having a session with me, shoot me an email sooner rather than later, while there still is a bit of room left on the calendar.
A highlight of this upcoming weekend is the fact that Paul and I are sharing a room with Adrianna Evans and Ally Cakes. Adrianna and Ally have become really close friends of mine recently, but we actually haven’t hung out in the same place since the first time that I met Ally at Adrianna’s house over a year ago.
I’m sure that there won’t be ANY mischief in our room with the three of us in one place, right? Actually, I’m just hoping that Paul can handle the three of us.
I’m looking forward to seeing lots of other friends, doing a bunch of shooting (wearing both my producer hat and my modeling hat) and playing with lots of lovely people.
For a long time, I was struggling with a low tolerance. It sort of came out of nowhere and became a really big problem for me. It was becoming almost laughable how little I could take. But this will be my first party since I’ve pretty much regained that. The only thing that I’ve noticed is that while my tolerance during a spanking is the same as it once was (although I’ll probably never have the same tolerance that I used to have at the very height of my hard play days, since I think that about 75 percent of the nerves in my butt were just temporarily destroyed or something) the pain seems to linger around longer, which I can’t say I mind. There’s something very satisfying about going to bed sore and waking up sore the next morning. My point with this is that it will be nice to be at a party where I can actually play outside of pre-arranged engagements more than just a little bit without feeling totally worn out, although I guess I do still have to pace myself a bit.
I also have to pack tomorrow night after the shoot. I have some super cute stuff for this party (the themes include “soda shop” and “1950’s prom” and I am very well prepared for both of these) and I just need to get it all together. But I just hate packing so much. You’d think that a person who travels as much as I do would be good at packing and unpacking. But you’d be lying to yourself, because I’m still terrible at it.
Anyway, there you have it. A blog post! It’s kind of all over the place, but at least it exists.
I’ll be straight forward about this: it gets harder for me to want to update my blog as opposed to other forms of social media because I often feel like I get way less feedback and interaction here for way more effort. I feel like a big loser saying “please leave comments” but an occasional note to let me know that the people who read this blog aren’t all spam robots would not be unappreciated. 😉
It’s good to be back, guys!
This is just to say that I’m still around. Things have been ultra-busy recently.
I flew from Los Angeles to Dallas and had a blast at TASSP.
From there, I flew to England, where I got to spend time with Paul, visit with friends and meet some great people. Plus, lots of adventures were had.
From there, we drove to Scotland, where I had many unforgettable adventures, and made some of my new favorite memories!
From there, we drove back down to England, where I spent a couple of days getting myself together before…
I flew back to the US, directly to Chicago, for the Chicago Crimson Moon Party!
Then, a few days ago, I flew back to Los Angeles. I arrived and promptly became super duper sick with a terrible summer cold. I haven’t been getting much done because I have almost no energy. I haven’t even unpacked yet. Mostly, I’ve been camped out in bed, from where I’m writing this mini-post.
In not very long at all, it’s back to the airport, too. I’m heading to Dallas again, for the Stormy Night Publications Author’s Conference.
Yesterday, despite being sick, I went to lunch with one of my very best friends, Erica Scott. She didn’t mind the fact that I was constantly sneezing in between bits of my stories. That’s a true friend.
Hopefully, soon I’ll start getting these stories up for you. Thanks for being patient with me.
Just wanted to let you know that I’ve updated the links section on my blog. When I re-launched this blog, the links were moved over exactly as they were on the old site. The updates I’ve made include:
Adding a few blogs which are new to my blog roll, such as A Domestic Discipline Society and the Sarah Spanks Men Blog. The authors of these two blogs contacted me recently asking to trade links and I was happy to do so: both look really excellent. If I don’t currently link to your blog and you’d like to trade links, please comment or email me letting me know. I am happy to add any blogs that have quality content that, at least largely, has to do with spanking and do not include text or images relating to the spanking of real minors.
I updated the URL for blogs who have moved locations. If you think I missed your URL move, please remind me.
I fixed Erica Scott’s blog, which in addition to linking to her old URL also suffered an unfortunate typo in which I accidentally called her “Eric Scott.” Oops.
I re-added my close friend Christy Cutie’s blog, which somehow didn’t get carried over. I only noticed that this happened because I didn’t see it when I checked the links for broken ones, so it’s possible it happened to your blog, too. If you’re missing from my blogroll but used to be there, please let me know.
I also added a link to my own new blog! In addition to maintaining this blog, I am now writing a second blog called Spanking Wishes. Spanking Wishes is a spanking video news, updates and reviews blog, and it features lots of pictures and, soon, interviews with people in the spanking community. I’m pretty proud of it so far. I hope you’ll check it out and that you enjoy it if you do!
I also removed any blogs which had not been updated in the past six months, unless they had a post stating that the author intended to return to the blog or if I know the person who manages the blog personally and feel assured that they intend to continue blogging (ahem, MADDY MARKS, ahem). If you come back and want to be included again, just let me know. Maddy, seriously, update your blog or I’ll drive down the street to your house and spank you!
I also removed all blogs which have made a post stating that they will not be updated again. This included two blogs that I had previously really enjoyed: Blossom and Thorn posted in February that they’ve stopped writing due to difficulties and changes in their lives, but that they’re both doing better than they were. I wish them the best of luck in everything they do from now on, and that they’re both healthy and well. Jade, who wrote the blog Kink and Poly, has also closed her blog due to an incredibly tragic personal loss. Kink of the Week will be continuing, though, so I’ve updated the list to include a direct link to that part of the blog. My best wishes go out to Jade, and all my love. She’ll be missed in the blogging world.
Those are all the changes that I’ve done. Please remember to contact me if you ever have questions about links!
I’m writing this post using WordPress instead of Blogger for the first time. It’s a different system, but it seems like it’s going to be much more powerful.
I apologize for the long period of absence that I’ve had recently. One of my wonderful friends did the design for this new blog, and I’m so happy with it. I think that it increases the functionality of my blog while looking great. Please comment and let me know if there’s anything that isn’t making sense to you: I think it’s pretty straight forward, though. It also has an easy reading version for mobile devices, in case you wanna read about my spanking adventures on the go.
During the redesign process, Blogger changed the rules that they had put in place regarding adult material. This was a victory, especially because they used language suggesting that they were really listening to what people had to say, but I decided that I wanted to own my own content and not have to rely on someone else’s restrictions anyway.
ALL of my old posts, tags and comments that you left for me have been migrated over here, so you can still find all the same content that was there before.
I’d like to ask that those of you who have links to my blog update them to reflect the new url: www.alexinspankingland.com. There will be no new posts to the Blogger blog after today, although it will stay up and old links will still work. If you used to link to a particular post on that blog and are willing to update it but don’t know where the one you want is, feel free to email me and I’ll set you straight on that. 🙂
I’ve been super busy recently, besides working with my friend to get this new and improved version of my blog up and running. Since I last told you about my adventures I’ve had many awesome ones indeed. So, in the coming days, I’ll be playing a little bit of “catch up” here!
I just wanted to let everyone know about the new URL: now I have to go write some scenarios for a two day location shoot that Paul and I are doing for Northern Spanking next week. This is the second shoot that we’re doing this month, and both of them have been with brand new spanking models, which is always super exciting. I remember when I was so new and enthusiastic about everything! We’re shooting in the country this week, so hopefully we’ll get to do some nice outdoor stuff. Getting ready for a shoot as a producer is a lot of work, and I’ve been happy to be taking on several aspects of that.
More soon! Update your bookmarks and links please!